(I love being at the stage in life where I have absolutely no qualms about knowing that I can do such things, like make January 2nd or even 8th the kick off to my New Year, because, well, why not?)
And perhaps due to my funky start / restart, as I’m looking ahead and dreaming and scheming about what I want in the New Year, I’m having to make a conscious effort to point my compass at what I actually DO want, rather than narrowing my eyes, judging and critiquing what I DON’T want.
I know it’s important to be aware of what we don’t want, in order to avoid unconsciously slipping into it and all, but an excessive amount of time and energy spent on negativity never seems to propel people to anyplace positive.
And man oh man, can I generate some negativity if I let myself....especially when I have the winter funk.
So, I’m working on imagining my happy place(s) and the things that will make them such.
So, what DO I want in 2017?
I want lots more of the following:
And as the wise woman Danielle LaPorte would ask:
How do I want to feel?"
Well..... I want to feel:
Abundant and Prosperous~ not just in monetary matters and material goods, but in love, friendships, and in the ever so precious commodity of time.
Peaceful~ unclenched jaw, non furrowed forehead and Chill.
At Home~ like I’m in the right place, around the right people and doing the right things.
(You know how sometimes, things are just such an effort and you feel like no matter how hard you pedal, you’re still going uphill, and no matter what you give or try, it’s not right for the people you’re around or situation you’re in? Well, I want to avoid all that BS, and when I find myself working hard at something that is clearly NOT in my zone of genius or even competence, and the efforts aren’t panning out, I don’t want to keep wasting my efforts there. I would much rather let go of what isn’t for me and focus my energy on what I’m good at.
Whoopsie~ there I go being negative........Back to my Positive attitude~ (insert more re-do dancing...)
You know how sometimes, you’re with the right people and you feel so completely loved and accepted and that whatever you have to offer is not only appreciated, but is plenty? Well, that’s where I want to be and who I want to be around.)
Competent and Confident and Making a Difference~ I know putting myself in the right situations and settings where my greatest gifts are needed will help me to help others in the best possible ways (rather than struggling to do things I’m no good at or aren’t wanted or needed~ see my above detour into the dark side...)
Supported and Safe~ I'm realizing that partnerships are a dance, whether between lovers, friends, family members or business associates. After my divorce, I had the opportunity to figure out my own independent big girl life and to know that I’ve totally got this. And that was one amazing and awesome thing to come out of a very hard time in life.
Now, I’m learning how to do a healthy partnership where we actually work together on things.
Like it's not all up to me to fix everything in the world~ crazy concept, I know!!!
Where I want to be is knowing that yes, I've got this, but also that the people I'm with have got my back and if I need to take a break, or slack off, or even collapse, they will catch me and keep me upright. And, of course, I will do the same for them.
That's the good stuff...
So, I'm feeling pretty good about knowing how I want to feel and what I want to experience, and even better....I'm also feeling pretty good that I can pull it off.
I'm not rushing out to plan, but more marinading in the ideas and seeing where they take me.
Planning will happen, of course, and I will have 75 million colorful ways of tracking it, but for now, I'm just open to where I want this year to take me.
I hope the New Year beings you lots of joy, and I'd love to hear about your dreams and schemes in the comments below.
(If your year started off at all sucky, I encourage you to do your own re-do dance and start again. Shake it my friends!)